Today I’d like to welcome a new Mom blogger friend of mine Tisha Matthews. She is a Behavior Management/Life Coach who is an active member with Mom Bloggers Club. One of the things that we found we had in common was that, as single moms, we were both searching for someone and we both found that we had to look for him a little differently than we originally thought.
Maybe we were getting in our own way. Maybe someone else was getting in the way. Maybe our big, fat, ugly self-images were getting in the way. Maybe we needed to educate ourselves about the craziness that is the male species. Maybe our Christmas Barbie collection or weird Rubik's Cube fascination was getting in the way. Here is her story of how she found true love (and I know, I know, I promise to quit being sappy and go back to my normal sarcastic self very soon--cut me some slack ya big whiners!):
Yes it can happen to you!
Every little girl’s dream is to marry their true love, which is the strong brave knight or prince that they see in the Disney princess films. And then I woke up in a nightmare with my son’s father. We were the extreme opposites, but not in a good way. I had a kind and gentle heart and he tried to destroy it. Thank God I only dealt with that devil for a year. I was blessed with a beautiful baby boy from that horrid relationship. During my pregnancy he proposed to me. I said no and moved on with my life as a single mom.
That terrible relationship brought my self-esteem to an all time low. My dreams of meeting my soul mate had been crushed, but deep down inside I did not want to accept that. From the moment my son was born amazing women came into my life that had amazing husbands. The brief moment they were in my life they taught me how to love myself again and that it was still possible to meet my soul mate even with my child.
A few years passed, my son is about three years old. My friend had her first child and about a month later one of her guy friends came over to her house with a gift for her baby. She introduced us. That moment I literally fell into my soul mate’s lap. We became very good friends from that day on. Eventually we developed romantic feelings for each other and began dating; a year later we got into a relationship, which was extremely intense, but we ended the relationship the next year.
I truly believed in my heart that he was my soul mate. He not only treated me like a princess, I felt like we belonged together in my soul. The feeling I have for him is a sense of belonging, like we fit perfectly together, I feel safe with him and I can be myself around him without feeling any insecurities. During the time-out separation I felt like my world came to an end. Thank God for my son! He helped me keep my head above water, also I have to thank my best friend for doing the same.
But the trophy goes to my dad. He also believed that he was the love of my life and that he and I were meant to be together. So my dad decided to prepare me just in case he wanted to come back to me. My dad told me all the secrets about men and what women should and should not do to foster successful relationships. Furthermore; I continued my studies on the opposite sex by reading a lot of books and following the gurus of love.
Three years later my guy came back to me. I did not make it easy for him. About two years into our renewed courtship we got back together and our relationship has been wonderful ever since. By the way, my son loved him the first time he met him. I knew this because he did not throw any toys at him like he did with the other guys who tried to date me! Rule of thumb, your kid knows best (not in all cases) but they do. If they like the guy, he is the one for you.
I have perfected the art of single parent dating! And so can you.
I hope you all like my little life story. If you have any questions on how to attract and keep your soul mate you can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and/or you can go to my website: http://tishamatthews.vpweb.com/